Due to the sensitive nature of domestic violence, combined with the stigma many abused men experience, it is necessary to establish some rules regarding participation in this site. Please respect the rules, respect each other, and find a place here for you to know that you are not alone and without support.

 

 

• Your level of anonimity and privacy is determined by you. You may reveal who you are in real life or not. You may reveal any part of your real life or change all place and person names to protect your privacy. Anyone insisting that you reveal anything you do not want to will be warned once and banned on a repeat offense. This is a safe place and violations of that safety will not be tolerated. Sincere concern and curiosity is perfectly fine. Pushiness and invasiveness are not. Your IP address will never be kept or used except in the case of threats and trolling (addressed below).
• This is a place for abused males. The definition of "male" is quite open - you may be a physical male who identifies as male, you may be a physical woman who identifies as male, or you may be anything anywhere on the gender spectrum. You will be trusted that you identify as male. As per the above rule, no one will ever force you to reveal anything you do not want to. People who identify as female (including people who are phsyically women who identify as women), please feel free to join in support of your abused male friend or relative. If you are a female who needs support, please seek one of the relatively many resources available for you. This is a place for abused men and we need a space just for us. 
• At all times be respectful and courteous. Any kind of language (cussing and such) is perfectly fine, as long as it is not invective hurled at specific individuals. This is a place for us to feel safe while being able to talk about what happened, or is happening, to us. 
• Any threats made on this site, especially ones that involve threats of physical harm, will be reported to the appropriate authorities, including local law enforcement if known. Threatening users will be banned and logged by username and IP address.
• Trolls (people who come here just to make fun of us or otherwise belittle us) will be banned and logged by username and IP address.
• Uploading files is not allowed. This is only because I'm running this site off my own server, which has limited resources. If I get funding later on (and I'm not even looking for that right now), I can buy more server resources, but for now, if you have a file you'd like to share via the forum, please upload it somewhere else and link to it. I know it's a bother. It's not my first choice of how to do things, but I don't have the resources to support file uploads.
• You are allowed to change your username and delete your own posts. It's a good idea to be consistent with one's username so we know who you are and be able to support you, but given the sensitive nature of DV, I believe you should have the option of hiding your real identity, and if that means you think you need to change your username, you should be able to. The same logic applies to being able to delete your own posts. Sometimes you might feel the need to take a step or two back - and that's O.K. We will still be here for you.